I recently overheard someone say that they “will always be a seeker.” They indicated how profound their curiosity was. The person they were talking to was enthusiastically nodding in agreement. And I noticed I felt sad.

Seeking is a condition that arises from a sense of separation. It is a way of affirming the self as separate from – an attempt at union. How could you pursue union if you didn’t already feel separate? If you did not feel separate from the thing you want to get, you would not have to seek it, would you?

People have been frustrated with me that I do not seek more – that I do not exhibit more curiosity about the things of this world. But this is just a moment in a very full life. There was once a time when all I did was seek.

The funny thing is, my seeking was often devoted to understanding the feelings of separation that arose during my interactions with people. I did not feel separate very often otherwise.  So I’ve studied people to understand why we feel separate and how to help transition into the truth of connection. And so I now have a business practice devoted, ultimately, to helping people with the process of re-union – of finding the indwelling love and opening to that love, of getting out of its way and living it.

Living love is a radical notion. Especially when compared to the path of self-help currently in fashion. Right now you are expected to fix yourself. To find what is “wrong” with you and do whatever it takes to make yourself not-wrong. There are thousands, if not millions, of people who will agree that your anxiety or fear or depression or anger are due to unresolved issues or a lack of some essential understanding about your depths or about the nature of the universe.

There are so many systems being offered that suggest that, if you learn them, they will set you free. But these systems, when they are good, arise from the understanding inside the heart of the individual(s) creating them. You can do the same thing, that is, go inside your own heart for understanding and guidance.

What is in their heart is also in your heart. And what they are accessing, you, too, can access.

All of these systems, when they are good, are attempting to lead you to living more love. If they are really good they offer tools and resources to help you get out of the way of what is already there, inside of you.

Sometimes I wish all the teachers and modern-day gurus would stop offering such things and simply say “You have everything you need inside of you. Seek within and you will find what you are looking for” and leave it at that.

Because no matter how enlightened the teacher, so many seekers hold a mentality of being separate and seeing teachers as having something they don’t, so the process of seeking itself can serve to amplify separation, making the path that much more difficult.

And when you feel separate you cannot comprehend that you are not (separate). So telling someone they are not separate and then saying, “Here, do what I’ve learned, take these steps, adopt this system”, well, it sort of feeds into the idea that you don’t have it inside after all, doesn’t it?

Living love is very simple – you feel love in your heart and you give it expression. Period. Sadly, in a society that holds disdain for the body, eats numbing food, over medicates, and generally avoids embodiment, we are disconnected from the feeling of love that arises in us. So we are kind of flying blind.

Living love has now become something that requires a process. It requires explanation. It requires a great degree of courage and discipline.

Love is what heals. Love transforms. Love is, in and of itself, a complete path. If you shift your focus to living love, shift away from all your processing and fixing, you will find much more rapid transformation. You will experience the very fulfillment you seek. And love will teach you. It will heal you. It will guide you. It will activate the love in others and your relational experiences will be more rewarding and so much easier. You will be happier.

Love should be easy. Are you willing to stop working so hard and just love? Would you be willing to go on a processing-fast and just practice love for one week? Can you stop making things so complicated and just live love?

If you did not wonder or worry about connection, how liberated would you be to love more? So assume relationship. Assume connection. Then go out in the world and live love. It really is that easy.