There is so much talk about finding your purpose. The general idea is that you will feel truly fulfilled when you find your purpose. Unfortunately, finding your purpose is often obscured by a general misunderstanding of what purpose is.

Without an accurate understanding of what purpose is you can go on a wild goose chase – trying thing after thing after thing trying to find what it is you are “supposed” to do.

Let’s get clear on something – Purpose is a package that consists of two parts:

1. what
2. how

When we talk about purpose it is very common to mistake the what and the how.

The what of purpose, the meat of purpose, is the same for every single human being on this planet. Your purpose, my purpose, your neighbor’s purpose, everyone’s what, is to love. That’s it. Period.

Now that you know what your purpose is,  the juicy question is:

How can I love in the least obstructed, most beautiful, fulfilling way possible?

What is so wonderful about getting clear about the difference between the what and the how is that you can do the what RIGHT NOW! You don’t have to wait to discover the ultimate how. You can fulfill your purpose by being love more and more and more each day. Just love.

What is so interesting, and beautiful, about this is that simply by doing the what the how begins to reveal itself. All you have to do is pay attention to flow.

Think of flow as a great big “yes” from the cosmos.

When you love, you will begin to experience more flow. Flow makes things magical. You’ll notice things like:

• weird synchronicities
• things getting easy
• being more creative
• increases in your energy
• having answers just pop right into your head

What you want to do is to begin to pay attention to the ways you are loving when these things happen.

For example – I notice that when I give away my work to someone, like a person who really, really needs a session but simply cannot afford it and is in really bad shape, just getting their butt kicked by life – well, sometimes it is put in my heart to help someone and not charge them so I honor that. The person then feels really grateful and will start to go into an indebted mentality. And what I say to them is: “Don’t worry about. By you receiving the session I get to get some new clients so I actually feel really grateful to you for letting me do this because I am about to get styled-out by the Cosmos.” Then, inevitably, I will get at least 1 new client and more often it’s a 3:1 ratio. This is flow.

Now there are things that I do, that I “give away”, where I do not then get styled-out by the Cosmos – I just feel drained or unappreciated or silly. This is not-flow.

Flow is like a trail of bread crumbs you simply follow and it will lead you to how you should be fulfilling your what.  (Again, your what is your purpose to love.)

Following flow is also really beautiful because it filters things for us. What I mean is that most of us feel simply overwhelmed by all the things we could be doing and we get confused by this: “Should I pursue a degree in ________ or should I just start a non-profit or should I make art or should I climb the ladder at work or should I write a book?” You get the idea.

By following flow, the way we should be loving that is most fulfilling to us will reveal itself so there is nothing to worry about or figure out. It’s really incredible. And quite the relief.

Our deepest talents and gifts and fulfillment all come to light, they all surface, by loving and then following the flow.

What I find so interesting is that this dynamic – this dance between what, flow, and how – is so perfect and so brilliant. You see, when you love and you follow flow you step onto a path that grows you into the person you were born to be.

For each step you take in the direction that flow leads your mind is expanded a bit and your capacity to imagine and desire more and more wonderful things is grown. Too, your confidence will increase and your fearfulness will lose its grip on you. This means you will begin to love more and more boldly. You will become less and less obstructed by limitation – yours and others’.

All the processing in the world cannot touch the transformative power of living love, following flow, and discovering the how that is revealed in this approach.

I would also like to say that personal fulfillment does not and cannot ultimately happen in isolation. We are connected and, as such, the things we do are only truly and deeply rewarding when they reflect the truth of connection. In other words, it ain’t just about you. Because you is about your totality, your wholeness. And your wholeness is realized only when you see, experience, and act as a member of a much larger whole. It is the difference in perspective equivalent to how a teenager sees things and how an adult sees things.

So this is pretty good news, isn’t it? You get to start living your purpose and feeling increasingly more fulfilled and you don’t have to even have the slightest idea of how you should be doing it.

In other words – you can be a waste disposal expert, a secretary, a CEO, a struggling artist, unemployed, or totally lost and you can still live your purpose. And you can find your how just by following the trail of breadcrumbs – you don’t have to know anything more than that and that path will lead you to the person you truly are meant to be.